For me the idea of limit setting is teaching my children to set internal limits. If a child behaves in a certain matter in order to avoid a punishment or obtain a material reward than how can we be certain of her behavior when punishment and reward are removed. The limit setting needs to come from their own conscience and it is this that I try to develop. This involves much more time and effort and the results are slower to come but in the long run I believe it is the process whereby children can become positive constructive members of society who ALSO think for themselves. That being said...boy do I have a lot of work to do! LOL
