Too funny, I signed in today thinking that I might ask this very question...
We are so chicken! My DD9 is skipping 4th and told one friend two days ago. The response was not great, the child seemed threatened or scared and my DD felt a little weird.
My DD5 is skipping K and we haven't told anyone. She is nervous about reactions and I think we need to just get over it and start telling people.

What is appropriate for me to say? I like what someone here said, that is better to say little rather than more. I think that I have a tendency to say too much, to try to be transparent and make people understand us, when I should have a pat line like "it was just a good decision for her" or something. Can I just say that they are smart, or is that obnoxious?