I don't have a premie but thought I'd respond to your post anyway. I do have twins but was fortunate to be able to carry them nearly to term despite being on bed rest from 26 weeks.
As you probably know there is a lot of documentation of cognitive problems for very low birth weight babies. Here's just one article I pulled up by googling very low birth weight cognitive disabilities
http://aje.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/content/full/154/10/895Has you child been assessed for special ed? Is he being followed by a neurologist?
I'm not familiar with OE - does this refer to eye problems?
If you haven't done so already, I would ask his pediatrician for a referral to get him a thorough neuropsych assessment which may help you a lot. If possible you want a neuropsych who is familiar with the long term cognitive effects of VLBW.
Your very brief description sounds like executive function problems. Have you read up on this area? It's a relatively new area of LD that has largely been written about in terms of ADHD, Autism spectrum disorders and psychiatric disorders like early onset bipolar.
