We went through an extremely rough patch with DS (now almost 6). It led to our first testing of him, etc. and he's now a very happy kid again, homeschooled and a DYS. But the road has been LOOONG and we tried every parenting trick and education environment out there, it seems.

One book that was like the Holy Grail for us is called "Transforming the Difficult Child" by Glasser. Here it is on Amazon:

http://www.amazon.com/Transforming-...mp;s=books&qid=1237908938&sr=8-1

It was like a "headsmack" moment reading the first chapters of the book and explained to a "t" what we were seeing from DS. And the solutions were extremely practical and easy to implement. I can't recommend it highly enough...it certainly helped bring peace and sanity back to our house!