I am new to this forum. I have some questions that maybe some one here can help me with.
I have a 9yr old boy in 4th grade. I have never had him tested for gifted but every school year something happens that makes me question if I should. I don't think he is your typical(if there is a typical-lol) gifted child. He does not like to read for entertainment(or even that which is required). Every year since kindergarten every teacher has said the same exact thing. "He just sits there and day dreams, zones out. But when I ask him a question he has the answer." They all think he is not listening and are amazed when he knows what's going on. He does well on his tests, mostly A's and lots of 100%. Occasionally, he'll get a real clunker i.e. 47%. Every teacher says that he does not put forth enough effort and I agree. He seems completely unmotivated. Over the summer I brought him to Sylan(because I didn't know where else to go) They tested him with the California standardize test and said that he scored a 7th vocab and overall was on the six grade level(this was at the end of 3rd grade) and thought he could possibly be gifted. They suggested that I start by taking him to his doc for referral.
( I guess to see a psychologist)
Another thing that my son does is take things apart but has no interest in putting them back together.
I just got a call from his teacher yesterday that she is having behavorial problems with him. Mainly typical boy things, talking, fooling around in class. Also, being disrepectful and not taking resonsibility for his actions, blaming others. I had a talk with him about this and his reaction seemed to show a lot of frustration. Is his boredom causing him to have these behavioral problems?
I'm so worried that we are all missing something with him. These problems go on year after year and I fear that we will lose him. He doesn't try very hard as it is and still gets A's and B's. I fear that if we don't figure out what he needs he will become disinterested altogether and dettached.
It seems nothing anybody says or does to help him changes his behavior or attitude toward his schoolwork.
Should I have him tested privately for gifted or maybe the issue is something else altogether?
I'm very worried. I don't want to fail my child. Is it common for a gifted child to be a type "B" personality (as his 2d grade teacher once put it.) Or as his kindergarten teacher put it "Unwilling to conform." or as his first grade teacher put it, "Lacking maturity." Or as his third grade teacher put it,"zoned-out"(of course hearing every word and getting A's) Or as his 4th grade teacher most recently put it, "Unwilling to take responsibility."
Or are these all another way of saying he's not being challenged?
I hope this makes some kind of sense and that I have asked questions and did not just ramble.
Thank you reading this. If this situation sounds familiar to anyone I would appreciate your thoughts.
Thank you,
Cindy