Fighting the school, telling them he's not going to participate, etc., likely does not lead to a good outcome - short or long term.
That's a great passive response and easy to take that attitude, the problem is, it doesn't take into consideration what WON'T happen if one does't fight the school or refuse to participate.
What won't happen is nothing will change, not for your child and not for the next child who's needs are ignored. At some point, it takes a few people putting their foot down and looking schools eye to eye in order for things to change, otherwise, the school simply goes on not putting any extra effort in to accommodate any advanced needs. That seems like a pretty crappy long term outcome to me.
