Did you ever have a structured, explicit phonics program? Such as Orton-Gillingham, Wilson, or Barton? If you were never identified as having reading difficulties (which is possible, with your high reading comprehension), then you might benefit from taking a look at an OG-based program. I would suggest reading The Logic of English (
https://www.amazon.com/Uncovering-Logic-English-Common-Sense-Approach/dp/1936706210), which breaks down the phonemes and graphemes of English used in the vast majority of our language. There are other curricula based on the same system that I usually recommend for remediating reading in children and adolescents, but as an adult, this book probably makes the most sense for you.
With regard to NVLD, it's more of a matter of remediating or supporting areas that interfere with your successful life functioning, than it is changing your underlying learning profile. I think you have already taken many of the steps that will be functional for you (such as learning DBT and seeking medication consults). If you are not already working on this in one of your therapeutic contexts, you may also wish to seek out some social-emotional learning opportunities. One place to start might be Michelle Garcia Winner's work (
https://www.socialthinking.com/).
And you are warmly welcome to this community!
ETA: I mean that your reading difficulties were unrecognized, and therefore unremediated.
