It's great to go the polite route, as long as it is also the well-informed route. smile
Here is a roundup of advocacy resources and crowd-sourced advice threads from these forums.

Quick Start:
- Gather your evidence for your child's progress, scores, etc, and organize into a ring binder.
- Print any applicable state laws and school policies, and add these to your advocacy ring binder (as laws and policies may change over time).
- Using the advocacy resources, your gathered data, and input from your family, develop a strategy to politely hold the school accountable to the policies and laws.