DD12 has been evaluated and assessed every which way, and she has had enough. The psych I see (because DD won't go) recommends we leave DD out of therapy as she wishes for now (until DD is more open to it). The problem is that everyone who has seen DD has contradictory views of the assessments so we are confused. Anxiety? Depression? ADHD inattentive? DH and I are pretty sure the ADHD diagnosis is valid (the in home behavior just screams inattentive), and we are interested in really determining this and are open to meds. So, the latest step in our quest for DD help is perhaps an appointment with a developmental and behavioral doctor recommended by DD's pediatrician. Our psych, the woman who administered DD's IQ test, urged me to make sure the doctor had experience working with high gifted children. I called this morning, and DD could get an appt. for June.
Questions:
I tried to explain to the doctor's office that DD is HG+, but I am afraid I came off as "one of those parents" because the new client assistant assured me that the doctor often works with gifted children. Do I verify this by asking if he knows about SENG, DYS, etc? My experience now with the medical community is I know way more than they do about HG children.
Is a developmental and beh. specialist someone who could verify ADHD? If not, just go to a basic psychiatrist? The psychs. we know have little knowledge of gifted issues.
Sigh. This is so tricky. I read that biological parents of HG+ children find their kids enigmas. DH and I are MG, have our grad degrees, and so are pretty bright (although my IQ is fading, I swear), but DD is just so outside of our experience. I sometimes feel that I am failing to effectively parent her, that perhaps she is not reaching her full potential.
