It's possible that there's an underlying classroom/school issue you might want to consider here - school or program culture. We found in our school district that the FT gifted program had a relatively large number of parents who were obsessed with grades, with having their children id'd as gifted, with thinking that their children were uber-AP and Ivy-bound, and the parents were talking about all this at home with their kids (and in some cases applying a lot of pressure) even in early elementary.
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I think this is likely a lot of what is going on. However, not all of the parents are like this. At this point, I think the program is her best fit, but it is still frustrating. We left a lovely alternative school, which was completely unwilling to do any differentiation. I wish we could have the best of both, but that's not possible. But these are all good thoughts to talk about with her.
