This is a complex and highly nuanced topic for discussion and contemplation. I would agree that it is typically presented in an overly conformist way, but also that it is important for individuals on the autistic spectrum to recognize the ways in which their profiles can become a hindrance to happy, healthy, independent function in this world. Just as communities should learn to understand and accommodate those with ASD, individuals with ASD also benefit from learning to understand and adapt to the NT majority. Especially as the traits of ASD are not all hardwired; many of them are malleable to skills training, parenting, and natural consequences. (Not saying that ASD can be "cured", but that the nature and extent of every ASD-associated behavior is not a given.)
One can loosely compare this to multilingual/multicultural individuals learning to code-switch. The capacity to do so does not necessarily mean one is demeaning or betraying the first language/culture by using the second; it is an aide to communication and relationships with a wider range of people, that are personally satisfying and pragmatically effective. Continuing the analogy, those who master code-switching tend to have fewer obstacles to attaining their personal goals, when interacting with the majority culture.
