I found a book that seemed to help with my daughter. I found it by accident at the library, but I'm really glad I did. It's called "Smart but Scattered" -
http://amzn.com/1593854455 - and it's about developing executive function skills in kids.
The book helps identify the skills that are strengths and weaknesses in both you and your children. Just ID'ing those helped me understand the differences among my family (hubby, me, DS6.9 and DD10.9).
One of my strengths is one of my daughter's weaknesses and that creates many of the issues. The book also shows how a combo of weaknesses cause problems in daily life, and it provides strategies on how to foster growth in those weaker skills.
