You've done great research.

Have copies, document who is involved in each decision, and be prepared to follow up with your state department of education if needed. You might ask them about the policy: their interpretation of the policy, when that policy might come into play, whether it applies to this situation, how they believe it applies, etc.

Bear in mind that if the school is out of compliance, they are the ones making this confrontational; Don't let them place blame, shame, or guilt on you. smile