Help, please. I'm new here and I've been wanting to find someone/somewhere to ask this question. I'm a gifted granny worried about the behaviors I see in my gifted granddaughters. I was very close to them when they were small. Here's one of many questionable! behaviors: Still at age 6, one girl, when upset by something relatively minor, would start kicking her mother. Mom would hold her off at a distance and child would try to kick her. I've also seen child try to hit adults, even me. Mom says/said this is "normal" for age 6. I cannot conceive of it at any age. Mom is lazy when it comes to discipline; she has no routine; doesn't enforce any "rules"; doesn't have an overall "theory" that explains; makes it up as she goes along; she overlooks; avoids the issues; hasn't set any goals for her children except maybe that they be popular; and yes, when not actually at work, Mom spends a lot of time on phone. It scares me to think what will happen to this dear child when she gets older. Mom will not listen to [my] advice, of course. Also, two years later, this girl is now 8. She may still be kicking, hitting adults--I don't know. I think in classroom she acts OK. In her school, I know she'd be kicked out if she were hitting/kicking adults/teachers. Mom now divorced and Mom claims that social worker says to go very easy on kids for awhile. "Easy" translates into allowing and excusing rudeness to herself and other adults and other behaviors that will have a negative effect, I fear, in the future. Is it NOW considered NORMAL for a six year old girl to kick adults including Mom when she has an "issue"? Or is this just my daughter? If it's not just my daughter, if it's what modern parents believe, have things changed that much? If so, heaven help us all.
