So Weird!
These kids definitly have their own perspectives on things. I think one possible way in is that you want her to develop her self image as a perserverer anyway. In the long run, no matter how bright she is, it's only through hard work that she'll get the kinds of results she is likely to want.

Best Wishes -
You don't have an easy row to hoe!
Trin

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