That's long. (Why the enormous gap between testing and the qualification meeting?) Is your child getting services now, or are they waiting for the IEP to be in place? S/he should be receiving appropriate instruction and services under RTI (response to intervention) in any case, but implementation varies substantially from district to district.
You may find it useful to have an educational advocate who is expert in writing measurable goals. We have gotten good at it as parents, but it took some years. We do a lot of rewriting in the meeting itself to get the job done, but sometimes it does take many meetings to get it right.
Even after it's right, it continues to evolve as needs change.
