KYPie - my two (DD11 and DS9) both had significant "social divide" issues when they were that age (with DD it was intensity, anxiety, perfectionism & perseveration, and with DS it was intensity, perseveration and sensory issues) and I was concerned about the social landscape. The situation has since resolved itself and they have adjusted nicely.
They can still be quirky at times, but both have been able to maintain friendships and fit in with pop culture to whatever degree they are interested. Interest is the key... for instance my DS didn't want anything to do with Halo and avoided conversations about it (his friends at school liked it but he thought it was too violent) but he has since become a Minecraft aficionado, which has social currency.
I guess my point is that the social connection sometimes gets better with growth, development and exposure. In the case of my two, the social divide that you refer to actually shrunk instead of grew
