There are books which can help kids see social situations through a lens which is not personal which can help raise awareness and open discussion on these things in a way which may help a child not feel criticized.
There are lots of good things at Prufrock Press, Great Potential Press, free spirit publishing.
One new book from 2013 is Asperkids Secret Book of Social Rules (
http://www.amazon.com/Asperkids-Secret-Book-Social-Rules/dp/1849059152)
From 2011: Social Rules For Kids - Top 100 Social Rules Kids Need to Succeed (
http://www.amazon.com/Social-Rules-Kids-The-Kids-Succeed/dp/1934575844)
