It sounds like she's thriving!
Maybe to reframe your next decade's view, instead of "feed the monster" but "teach the monster to feed itself." I feel that's one of the most valuable things I've done for my kids so far. We've taught to think, find information, and self advocate. My two kids (2nd and 5th) are currently reaping the benefits of having learned to self-educate and to positively self-advocate with their school staff. I'm finding that I'm less and less involved in the feeding process, and more and more in the role of keeping the cupboards stocked.
