I dont know what you can do. It almost seems too late if he has one more strike & he's out, it almost seems inevitable..at home here's a new perspective on timeouts, it's not to punish or to teach a lesson for the long term. Timeouts are to "snap them out of it" and keep their behavior from spiraling after the initial indiscretion (hit, whatever). A good place for a timeout is pull them over beside you and keep them there for a minute to cool down. Saw that on PBS from a daycare teacher. Got the correct timeout mind frame from a popular book.
Bumping this thread in case anyone knows what to do long-term.
