You could be posting about my DD7. I often think, what she could do if she really learned to try, to work at something, persevere... I get so much satisfaction from working hard and I'm not afraid of a challenge. I often fear that she will just coast along and then hit a wall. At some point things will get hard and I worry that she won't be able to handle it. On the flip side she tries really hard socially. Trying to stay/appear calm and keep self control, this is where all of her energy goes.