DH and I were identified as gifted in 3rd grade in the top 0.5% of our country (in Southeast Asia). We now live in the Bay Area and we're getting DD8 assessed on the WISC-V next week.

When I mentally check off the typical 'gifted traits' I'm on the fence wrt DD8 is just bright or truly gifted. The goal of doing the WISC-V is to give us insight into how she thinks, and whether we should pursue gifted programs in private schools. There is no gifted program in our school district (Los Altos).

Part of me is dreading that her FSIQ will come back to be < 130 and I think I will be disappointed that she might not be like DH and myself. I know that's so wrong to think that way, but I can't shake the feeling!

Any parents here (who tested as gifted themselves) in this situation before they got their kids tested?

Disclaimer: I was tested, but have not had my children tested, so no, not in exactly the same situation.

But I would reassure you that IQ is just a number (and one with a confidence interval, moreover). And I say this as someone with more day-to-day experience with that number than most. The qualities you see in your DC won't disappear if the number comes back as 125 instead of 135. She will be the same curious, creative, and loving child that you knew before the test, and you will love her exactly the same way. The ways in which she has already demonstrated that she shares traits with you and your spouse will not have changed. You'll just have one more (isolated) data point about how she performs on a particular narrow set of tasks. Useful, but only one part of her, and not even the most important part.