Our DS (8.5) has difficulty controlling his voice and will tear up if he does not understand something nearly immediately. This has been ongoing and although has morphed into "merely" a high-pitched tight-voiced protest, is not resolving in what we think would be average for most kids of his age.

We've been working on pointing out to him when he's becoming out of control. Telling him he needs to give it a break. Sometimes it will work, but if it's something that he's perceived as being very desirable to understand, he will obsess over his inability to understand what is being said; sometimes bringing it up months later if we don't "work on it" with him.

I've heard of parents telling their child they are "spinning" when they get in a loop of sorts and can't seem to free themselves to gain a new perspective. Has anyone here a child that does this? Does maturing "cure" them, or is this something we will be working on like therapy?