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    here's a third approach: tell the teacher that when kids dont get enough chances to learn at the difficult end of their readiness level, then they often start feeling atrange and perfectioism becomes a problem. Suggest that she try to solve the boys problem by providing challenging enough work. This might have the nice side effect of you dd getting more work at her readiness level too,yes? good luck grinity


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    You know, I wonder if the school culture doesn't have something to do with it. My DS6 has been raised to be non-competitive but this past year at public, he's become very interested in the idea of being the best and ahead of everyone else. His focus has turned from enjoying the process of learning to beating others. I think someone at school is reinforcing him positively using words such as "you won" "you're the best at that". It's really sad. I think changing the school culture is beyond the scope of my duties as a parent, though, so I'm in the process of pulling him out.

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    I think that's a good point, GTH. When DS7 wasn't challenged sufficiently, I saw him (then 5-6yo) bragging and ranking classmates from smartest and down at school with other kids in the class.

    Some of that ranking stuff is just natural for the age, an outgrowth of the categorization that they do at that age, I think. So I suspect it might go beyond school culture, even. Though I think you're right that culture often supports and rewards it. It sure sounds like the teacher isn't doing anything to stop it...

    But IMHO, more challenge tends to cut back on the "I'm the best" stuff. DS7 doesn't do a lot of ranking of the kids in his math class anymore, except as a way of saying to ME that he fits in well with the other kids, who are 2-5 years older than he is. If he misses one or two and considers himself in the top three in the class, I'm quite pleased with that fit and kind of glad to hear about how he rates himself! It's helpful, not bragging to other kids.

    FWIW...


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