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Well, I'm not sure I get that much credit.

Basically, DS was so very curious about the test and how it worked that it would have taken a great deal of work on my part to prevent him from knowing his scores! So I probably just took the lazy way out. Either way, though, I haven't seen any harm from going that route and, if anything, I would argue that there has been some benefit.

DS, is an only child, though, so the family dynamics are definitely different.

I think the common reasoning is that a high number may place undue pressure/expectation on the child. A lower score may undermine what the child is ulimately capable of.

I know if I would have told DD6 at not yet 5, she would have gone around telling everyone!

The age of 10 seems more reasonable. The girls know they are "very intelligent" and know they are far ahead of GE. They are also aware that they learn faster than most and it's all presented to them in a way that it's totally normal for them to be that way.

I could see talking LOG with them at a later date, if the need arises. Not sure I would tell them their actual number unless I had a compelling reason.

I suspect this is a good example of following the child's lead. acs's son was curious. Was it worthwhile to keep the number from him? I agree with acs: no. What would be gained by keeping it from him? Making the number a secret is not helping him, and I agree that it might hurt him.

But DS7 never asked about his score. Should I tell him what it was? No. Why would I? If he needed that info, he'd ask. There, too, I'm following his lead.

I suspect that's the key: if they ask, tell them, but put it in context as completely as you can. It's not a 30-second conversation, it's a 30-minute one!

I haven't told my kids anything about their scores or even that there ARE scores. But I don't think my mom did me any harm telling me my score when I was a kid. I was older than my own kids are now, though.

It's not to keep it from them--I generally am not a believer in that. It's the sibling issue. All 4 tested into PEGS, so they all know they're > 3 stnd dev. We have talked about how the numbers don't mean as much as what they do with it (because one little girl in the class kept bragging and acting so superior and it really ticked me off because I didn't want them thinking they are superior--as a person--to anyone else because of IQ.

Boys seem more competitive than I was with my sisters. I always wanted my little sister to do better in school, score higher, have it easier. Not necessarily so for my boys. I just don't need to feed that, but perhaps in high school I'll offer to show their report.