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    Originally Posted by HowlerKarma
    Could be that it is LOG, could be it's a major aversion to black-and-white thinking, could be that it's perfectionism, and it's possible that it's just a personality quirk.

    My DD10 is highly prone to perfectionism, and she's always been very decisive in picking outfits or ordering from a menu, so I'd check that one off the list. I lean to "personality quirk", in which the individual is agonizing over picking the best possible of too many options, given too many unknowns.

    That seems to be what's going on with DW, our family's only bad menu orderer. Way too many times she has agonized over a menu, narrowed her options to the thing I picked or choice B, ordered B, compared our dishes, and engaged in self-recriminating regret when my choice turned out to be "better," even when her food was perfectly good (and when her dish was not well-executed... yikes!). She'd be a lot happier if she just ordered whatever I do, but she still keeps playing this game.

    DD, on the other hand, is perfectly content to learn that someone ordered something she'd prefer, enjoy her own meal, and take note of it for next time.

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    DD8 would make a full analysis of options including a pro and con list, a checklist, a timeline, a floor plan, a sketch, an informational poster, some art and a poem about every decision if she could. But if she can't (which is most of the time, because, come on) she'll just decide straight away and move on.
    I will decide straight away and move on because I'm very lazy and impatient.
    DH cannot make decisions. I think he gets stuck secretly making pro and con lists, checklists, timelines, floor plans, sketches, posters, art and poems in his head smile

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    Okay, that last part....really just summed up everything for me. I mean, I always know I don't want to paint that room blue, and I don't want green or yellow but....then what do I want? I never know what I actually want, just what I don't.
    And that's so true for me about the thinking/feeling thing, or at least sometimes. Because it's like, do I FEEL like this or like this? Not just if I feel like I want pizza or a sandwich (although of course that's another thing), but do I feel lunch-y and nostalgic like the pb&j or do I feel happy and carefree like pizza? And then I ask other people what I should do when I can't decide, and they stare at me like Can't you make your own choices? And how do you FEEL lunch like that?
    At least I know it's not just me. Hope that made sense BTW - maybe that last part IS just me. :-)

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