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Totally going to steal this and share it with my friends. Love it, Nautigal!

Thanks! It's an analogy that came to me one day -- unfortunately, it was brilliantly phrased when it came to me, and then I forgot the rest of it and that's all I have left. Ahh, speaking of memory.

I got DS a binder pouch for every one of his binders this year, and put everything on that teacher's list in each one, so he would not have to worry about needing a pencil or marker that was in his locker or in another binder. Now, at almost the end of the first quarter, I find out that he takes his backpack to every class, and it seems to be hit or miss on the binders.

He has a planner that the school gives every student, and it's had exactly one day of stuff written in it so far.

They have gmail accounts and can share papers with teachers, and it seems to be used sporadically.

One of my son's teachers had this, she called it a BEE Book, Bring Everything Everywhere Book- he lost it within the first few weeks of school

My kid doesn't remember his homework assignments either, I'm thinking about tying a string around his wrist, so that when he is in class and looks at it, he will remember-

Then he has to remember to look at the string, and then remember what the string is for.

Hey, Lisa, the rest came back to me last night -- I was emailing one of DS's teachers and my brain reached out and found the rest of the fish thing somewhere.

"We can buy him fancy wings, and give him flying lessons, and nag him every day to practice flying, or we can stop enabling him, kick him out of the tree and tell him he just has to learn to fly by himself, but in the end he's still going to be a fish."

@Nautigal- I figure the string is right there on his wrist in plain view, not tucked away in his backpack like his homework is- the string he can't help but see, would remind him of that homework tucked away in his backpack.. and it's common to put a rubber band on your wrist as a memory tool especially when you have problems remembering things.. I don't want him to smack himself with a rubber band, so I was thinking a string would be better

Just out of curiousity does he see value in passing his courses so he can go to the next grade with his class. I mean what happens if he actually fails?

Mix of things, the biggest being special ed support. He meets 10 min. late in the day with the special ed teacher, who makes sure his binder is orderly and that everything is written in the planner. This is coaching, not doing for him, with the idea that it's just taking ages to become automatic.

The other thing is good communication with teachers and natural consequences regarding taking responsibility. Last week DS got 100 on an online test by doing the work in his head, but forgot to show the work on paper (therefore, technically a zero). We sent him into school 10 minutes early the next day, having practiced a script of what to say to the math teacher to make it right. Amazingly, he did... And he now gets the point that if you don't show work it makes a hassle later. Learning is happening...

Sorry, speaking for myself, and facetiously, there. I would forget the string was there at all, and if I noticed it, would then ask myself what the heck that was for.