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    #16519 - 05/22/08 11:37 AM Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling
    OHGrandma Offline
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    homeschooling and socialization

    snip:
    Quote:
    One of the criticisms lobbed at the home-schooling community/movement is that home-schooled children are being shielded from diversity and a multitude of challenging influences which will ultimately handicap them in their ability to function in the “real world.” In other words, “How will these children function in our diverse, multicultural society when they are raised in a setting with monolithic views and beliefs?”


    I am a huge Dr Laura fan. I thought this blog was timely, considering the discussions about homeschooling.

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    #16534 - 05/22/08 12:42 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: OHGrandma]
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    Very interesting!

    I have to admit that until not so far in time I was totally against HS, thinking that it was completely insane ....

    And now, here I am, HS, even though only for a few months and wishing it was legal in this country.

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    #16536 - 05/22/08 01:05 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Isa]
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    I don't often agree with Dr. Laura, but I do on this.

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    #16543 - 05/22/08 01:15 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Cathy A]
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    OMG, I seriously think that article just pushed me over the edge. She is seemingly describing MY DD5 in that last paragraph. I bookmarked it and will be e-mailing it to DH and DG.

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    #16546 - 05/22/08 01:30 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Cathy A]
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    Well, in some cases and some places, I think kids *are* homeschooled to shield them from "a certain element" as they will say, and I don't think this is necessarily a good thing. When this shielding has at its root racism or classism, the so-called "white flight" in action, I think it is not healthy. Monolithic homeschooling of that sort is incredibly distasteful to me, though I recognize the rights of the parents to practice it.

    But in our case, coming from a white-bread-and-mayo suburb of middle-to-upper class families, we see a lot more racial and economic diversity in our homeschool group than DS6 saw in public school. So luckily for me, this is one liberal dilemma I don't have to guilt myself with.

    I do think parents who take it upon themselves to educate their kids *should* make an effort to expose the kids to a wide variety of people and opportunities (just as I think schools should do the same for kids within their walls), but I recognize their right to stick to monolithic views if that's what they prefer. Unfortunately, I do not rule the world. wink

    Obviously I agree with Dr. Laura's main point that homeschooled kids are not all maladjusted serial killers waiting to happen. Overall, HSed kids are at least as socially capable as their traditionally schooled peers. She's clearly right about that!

    Thanks for sharing, OH-Oma. smile
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    #16553 - 05/22/08 02:25 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    I thought it was particularly interesting that the research used Christian homeschooled kids compared to Christian traditionally schooled kids. It seems Christian homeschoolers have the biggest stigma attached as being narrow minded, bigoted people. Research shows that just isn't true.

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    #16554 - 05/22/08 03:18 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: OHGrandma]
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    Originally Posted By: OHGrandma
    It seems Christian homeschoolers have the biggest stigma attached as being narrow minded, bigoted people. Research shows that just isn't true.


    I certainly agree with you that this assumption is unfair! There are bigoted Christian HSers and there are open-minded Christian HSers, just like there are bigoted and open-minded segements of any population. Such assumptions about Christian HSers are unfair.

    Still, as Spock ( wink ), I feel I must say that it doesn't seem to me that this research from the website necessarily shows what you're claiming there.

    Originally Posted By: Dr. Laura
    They decided to study home-schooled students’ ability to successfully adjust to college life as an important criterion for demonstrating a positive outcome (or not) of home-schooling.

    They compared Christian college freshmen who had previously been home-schooled with a matched sample of traditionally schooled Christian freshmen on the College Adjustment Scale. The average scores of the two groups were compared across nine scales designed to measure emotional, behavioral, social, and academic problems as typically presented to university counseling centers.


    Even if the study evaluated narrow-mindedness and bigotry as part of that adjustment to college (it might not have--the website doesn't say, and I can imagine that a bigot might still adjust well to college), we could draw no conclusions about relative levels of bigotry compared to non-Christians from this study because non-Christians weren't included in it.

    *All* the Christians (HSed and not) might have been more narrow-minded than *all* non-Christians, but we can't know that because no non-Christians were part of the study. It is equally possible that *all* non-Christians were more bigoted than *all* Christians. It's just not knowable from this info.

    I don't mean to be argumentative. As I say, I think your point is 100% right and I think stereotypes are dangerous. I just don't think this study is the one to point to to prove your point.

    Sorry to slip into my annoying argumentative writing teacher shoes there for a minute. I promise to stop now! blush
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    #16561 - 05/22/08 06:31 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    We're discussing, not arguing! smile

    I think I should have stayed with the argument that one of the negative comments about homeschooling is the lack of socialization; and Christian homeschoolers seem to take the brunt of that accusation also. By having a narrow focus on only Christian public shooled and Christian homeschooled college students they were able to compare social skills between the two groups. Maybe a wider variety of home & public schooled students would have been a better sample, but then there would be other factors to be considered.

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    #16607 - 05/23/08 06:41 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: OHGrandma]
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    I agree with you completely! I know I get tired of the doggone "socialization" question. Christian homeschoolers are probably ready to scream when they hear it!

    That's why when I'm asked "But what about socialization?" I often respond with a broad grin and my standard answer: "Oh we lock DS6 in the basement and throw books down the stairs to him. Is that wrong?" <blink, blink>

    It gets a laugh, and then I explain about our highly active HS group, his many playdates, his busy social schedule.

    I detest stereotyping, so I just want to say again that I think what you're saying is right on the money. smile
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    #17011 - 05/29/08 03:52 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    The socialization of homeschooling isn't as concerning to me as having a dialogue with such a limited number of folks (e.g. a tired mom, a whiny brother, etc.). Instead of socialization, my concern would be peer group (same as my concern in normal school setting).

    I'll explain. I always have taken my kids to museums and they've loved it. I've talked to them about the various topics and followed up with library books about those topics afterwards.

    When my oldest DS went to 1st grade in a class for highly gifted, the class visited a museum we had frequented as a family. The kids were so animated, intensely discussing and demonstrating ideas, extrapolations--it was a whole new level beyond anything we'd ever done as a family. I think that was when I decided that the peer interaction was the #1 best thing, independent of the teachers or anything else. I still believe this. Unfortunately some classes don't have that synergy, but when you find one it's amazing.

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    #17012 - 05/29/08 03:57 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: cym]
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    cym, I think that is why I love my kids school so much. It is an accelerated magnet and the kids there are mostly on the same page. Lots of them like chess and going to museums and learning about great composers and artists, etc., and it is cool to be smart! You are so right, finding a great peer group is priceless. smile

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    #17016 - 05/29/08 04:55 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: cym]
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    Originally Posted By: cym
    The socialization of homeschooling isn't as concerning to me as having a dialogue with such a limited number of folks (e.g. a tired mom, a whiny brother, etc.). Instead of socialization, my concern would be peer group (same as my concern in normal school setting).


    Of course, in most schools, kids don't get to talk much to their peers during class. At least at the grade school and jr. high levels, the in-class interaction with peers is usually quite limited. Social time--20 minutes of recess and 30 at lunch--is about the only time the kids have to talk to anyone.

    I'd bet money that DS7 gets a lot more time to interact with true peers in a learning environment than he got in public school. Granted, I make the effort to seek those opportunities out, but so do most homeschoolers, Christian or not. At least in the traditional school classes DS7 has been in, the kids talk to the teacher when called on (a few times a day), but they don't talk with one another much during class time. Or if they do, they get in trouble for it.

    I'd suggest that the museum visit is usually a special occasion. Most classrooms aren't anywhere nearly as free-and-easy as that setting. Whereas for the homeschooler, museum visits and the like with groups of kids can be the norm.

    Just my take...
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    #17022 - 05/29/08 05:51 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    Well I think it really depends on the teacher and probably the particular school's policy. My kids have had the most wonderful, laid back teachers where the kids interact with each other and the teacher all during the day. I'm sure it isn't that way everywhere but it has definitely been our experience. smile

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    #17023 - 05/29/08 06:18 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: EandCmom]
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    It's a good policy. But it sure wasn't the policy at DS7's school. From what I saw when I volunteered in the classroom, "Sit down and shut up and write down the answer I just told you" was the rule in DS7's 1st grade class.

    Even in K, with a teacher who was much better, there just wasn't a lot of interaction among the kids.

    Hmmm. Maybe the school is even worse than I realized...I assumed that this approach was pretty standard, given the school's high ranking in our area. The K teacher's classroom approach didn't look a whole lot different from what I remember from my school experience. (The 1st grade one was worse, but only in the number of repetitions the teacher required of the kids and the utter lack of allowance for kids who already knew the answer. The amount of peer interaction was pretty much the same: virtually none.) As a result, I guess I assumed virtually none was the norm. Maybe not...

    So, if I may hijack the thread for a minute to pursue this line of thought...

    *How much peer interaction goes on in your kids' classrooms on a typical school day, especially in the lower grades?

    I'm particularly interested in responses from parents of kids in non-GT schools, public or private, as I would hope that there would be more peer interaction in a GT school. (Though I guess my assumptions could be wrong about that, too...)
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    #17026 - 05/29/08 06:48 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    EandC, sounds like your kids have a wonderful situation. Hopefully it's not too unique and others experience that as well!

    Kriston,
    I saw what you saw in K and first for both girls. Second was much better for DD8. There is one first grade teacher that provides a pretty good classroom environment, let's hope DD5 lucks out.

    There is a HG magnet that I suspect would be more of an environment like EandC mom describes. It starts in 4th grade.

    If you are talking intellectual peers......our district's dual level GT program attracts a lot of highly intelligent families, so there is probably more than our share of peers. The problem is that in the past, they have split them up in different classrooms. This was the first year that I observed them together in the same class for DD8's grade. If the administators are very concerned with social and emotional issues like they present themselves to be, they really should be letting these kids stay together.

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    #17029 - 05/29/08 06:58 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Well, 'Neato, rightly or wrongly, I just assume that with these HG+ kids in the public school, then true intellectual peers are not in the classroom. I wasn't really dealing with that.

    My question is just about interactions with agemates/classmates, regardless of anything else.

    At DS7's school, talking to other kids was discouraged pretty much at every turn. There were no opportunities for interaction in the classroom that I saw during the times I volunteered. Even when I helped in the library, a time when kids are milling around looking at books and interaction seems natural for them, I was instructed to keep them from talking to one another, even at a whisper.

    I suppose I could have just always been there at the wrong time and for the wrong activities, but that seems unlikely.
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    #17031 - 05/29/08 07:00 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    No, I'm in the school a lot, I think you got it right. In public school a lot of the teacher's responsibility is managing the classroom, behaviorally. I think a lot of good quality learning time is lost to that.

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    #17034 - 05/29/08 07:10 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Dottie]
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    Maybe it's just a little more difficult in the lower grades, when the kids are in the same class with the same teacher all day.

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    #17035 - 05/29/08 07:11 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Thanks, 'Neato. I appreciate your input. laugh

    If so, then I have to think that interacting in homeschool discussions regularly--even if only with a tired mom and a cranky little brother ( wink )--isn't any worse and might be a far sight better than being in a room with people and yet not being allowed to interact with them at all.

    I know that end of things was hard on my social but introverted boy! It was hard for him not to talk to the other kids when he was bored and they were right there with him, but by the end of the day he was worn out by all the time spent with people. It was all very unsatisfying for him.

    He's much happier now that we can choose when to be with people--and really be with them completely!--and when to be alone.

    I guess I find that argument against homeschooling to ring false to me. I think homeschooling lends itself to *more* opportunities for discussions with peers, at least when kids are young, than does a traditional (non-GT) school setting.

    I'm still willing to be talked out of my position though. wink
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    #17036 - 05/29/08 07:12 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    We overlapped, Dottie.

    What kind of group work? I'm intrigued.
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    #17038 - 05/29/08 07:13 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    I won't try wink

    I'm glad things are working out so well for you guys.
    Well, good night all, DH just came home and we are tivo-ing lost and we need to go watch it!

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    #17039 - 05/29/08 07:15 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    That's where I'm headed, too! Off to get "Lost!"
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    #17043 - 05/29/08 07:24 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    DS had tons of interaction all through grade school. In K and 1st, there were no desks, kids sat in groups at tables and worked together on projects and were encouraged to talk with each other as they worked. If they weren't talking enough, one of my jobs as a volunteer was to go to the quiet table and stimulate them into talking.

    DS's 4th and 5th grade teachers were great managers of classroom discussion and really the classroom felt more like an ongoing conversation between the teacher and the kids than just managing kids behaviour. When I volunteered in 4th grade, I led a book discussion group and we really did discuss. All the kids spoke, had ideas, and riffed off each other. They weren't brilliant or anything, but they certainly were not stifled spirits!

    What Kriston and Neato are describing sound absolutely nothing like our school. But then, remember, our isn't a very good school. Nobody moves to be in our district. The parents don't care what kind of college their kids go to or even if they go to college. I think this gives the school a lot more flexibility!

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    #17044 - 05/29/08 07:26 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    Hi Kriston,

    I actually had help from my dd on this one as parents are not in the classroom a lot.

    She told me they have plenty of interaction with one another. They always have group projects and are allowed to do "research" as a group. They also read to each other and with each other everyday.

    Her room 2 teacher allows them to go outside the classroom and do their silent reading on benches right outside their classroom when it is a nice day.

    They don't have individual tables but rather work on group tables. They have a lot of interaction specially in science and art. Their drama and music classes also offer great opportunities for interaction. There are still times when they need to sit quietly and listen to the teacher, but I don't think it is the majority of their day.



    Edited by bianc850a (05/29/08 07:27 PM)

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    #17046 - 05/29/08 07:34 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    Kriston - my K and 1 experiences are similar to what you saw. We had class sizes of 24 and 26. I get the feeling the past couple months DS doesn't even bother raising his hand any more because he gets so little chance to participate. There is little to no group work except for special events (like the do have 4th grade buddies they meet up with once a month or so). It definitely seems like the focus is behavior management. I think it might be a whole different ball game with 5-10 less kids in the class. Interaction is definitely limited to recess, lunch. And misbehavior in class!

    I even observed music class one day and it was incredibly quiet and non-interactive. Our school is very popular. They got enough applications for 7 kindergarten classes next year, but only have room for 3 classes.

    And bianc - how much do we need to DOK? wink

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    #17047 - 05/29/08 07:47 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: kimck]
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    I was also going to say, I think our school is similar to Dottie's in terms of intellectual peers. 40% of kids are probably in that above 120 range. DS loves school socially. He is a popular kid.

    It has taken me a long time to get over this denial about where DS stands. Everyone talks about how advanced curriculum is at our school and to me it doesn't seem advanced at all and we could use a whole lot more. Obviously, many GT kids are being served well here.

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    #17050 - 05/29/08 08:04 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: CFK]
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    CFK - WOW on the PE! I want to move to your school. In our district, kids get PE twice/week for about 25min I think.

    I also have been told how advanced our curriculum is and how it isn't developmentally appropriate and w/ my son, I just don't see it. He needs more and faster. I just learn to keep my mouth shut.

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    #17051 - 05/29/08 08:26 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: kimck]
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    Originally Posted By: kimck


    And bianc - how much do we need to DOK? wink


    Ok. So I will give you guys one (or a few) more reason(s) to DOK and then I promise to be quiet for the rest of the school year (10 more days!!)

    Room one has become even smaller (only 15 children per classroom) with two teachers.

    We are getting five new teachers. Our new coordinator of Educational Technology for the lower school comes with a Masters in Technology in Education from the Harvard Graduate School of Education. Although this is the teacher who I am most impressed by, all the others come with equally impressive credentials.

    The new center for communications will be completed next month. It will have 2 additional classrooms, a great library (with a special place for authors to come and read to the small children) and a conference room to be used for distance education (it will have state of the art computers)

    The science rooms (both lower and upper school) will be upgraded with more modern equipment/new furniture.

    The computer labs will have new computers.

    The new electronic white boards will be installed. Then next year the school will go to one-on-one laptop program.

    All in all, I wish i could be six again and go back to school

    Sorry guys, I don't mean to brag, it is just that our headmaster just hosted a "headmaster's coffee" to update us on all the things going on next year.



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    #17052 - 05/30/08 01:16 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: bianc850a]
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    blanc850a
    I don't think you should brag. Your kid goes to a very expensive school, which is 'elite' but look at your trouble in accelerating her. There are 'rooms' not grades with which you must deal. Kids aren't accelerated through grades, not sure why you spelled it out that way. And the huge moneyed factor. I don't think this is what the typical gifted child deals with in schools. All in all I think you should tone it down and not make others jealous of a school that I don't think is that great for gifted kids.
    You can be six again, and I can be banned from this site, but whatever, you are wrong for gloating about something that is expensive and for rich people and some granted scholarships by the by.

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    #17055 - 05/30/08 05:08 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Dottie]
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    I also support Bianca's post. Someone in Queens wrote me about her efforts. She initiated middle school gifted programs in her district, upped the curriculum for G&T with accelerated math, worked with the prinicipals to enhance gifted curriculum.

    If you want to push the advocacy, it can be done. And hearing Bianca's experience provides us with ideas. I am not so ambitious to initiate gifted programs but would like to support anyone who does.

    It is good to hear what is available and the things that can be done.

    Ren

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    #17057 - 05/30/08 05:19 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Wren]
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    Yes, I was just joking with bianca. I love hearing about her daughter's school.

    In fact, I don't understand why you think it's "not so great" for GT kids, calizephyr. There's more to a GT education than acceleration, and it sounds like bianca's kid's needs are being well-met.

    I do understand what you're saying about the class issue. I certainly don't love that the school is an expensive private school and all the class issues that surround a school like that are troubling. But that's why we DOK: if only our kids could get such services at public schools.

    It is good to hear about what's out there, though. Knowing what exists helps us to understand what's possible.
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    #17060 - 05/30/08 05:33 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Wren]
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    First of all, since I've been on this board I haven't experienced Bianca to be bragging about her good fortune in school placement in a malicious way. On the contrary, it's good to know there are schools in current operation that can accomodate HG+ kids.

    Additionally, I don't think calizepher is at all in danger of being banned from this site for expressing frustration at the inequity of these very rare programs.
    After all, that's what this site is for.

    Getting together and expressing support for both situations.

    I do want to hear about schools like Bianca's because it gives me ideas about what could work. On the other hand, yes, it can be incredibly frustrating to be sitting here knowing my child could benefit from such a situation, yet never have access to it.

    We are in a school district like Kim's and Dazey's. The curriculum is written by the internal administrators and it's great! It probably is a year ahead like they say. And they have very thought out and established gifted programs. Unfortunately, in the K-3 years, it's not even close to being challenging enough for HG kids. I really don't know yet if the higher grades will be, we'll have to see. There's no flexibility for grade skippping and alternative approaches because they sincerely believe they have all the bases covered.

    Yes, you can advocate for changes and I have here and have been relatively successful. But in a district that has really established and succesful gifted programming, it's really difficult and has been somewhat draining. And it comes at a personal cost as there are parents who think you are a real a$$.

    Peace,
    Neato

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    #17063 - 05/30/08 06:20 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Hello Calizapher,

    I am sorry my post bothered you. I wished schools like the one my dd attends would be available for every child, gifted or not. It is a great school, and yes it is an expensive school. Had my dd been a ND child I wouln't have even considered a private school. However, a good percentage of the families there receive some financial aid. The Davidson institute also provides financial help for tuition for schools like this one.

    It is true that some of the families there are very wealthy, but not all. For a good portion of us it is a sacrifice of both time and money.

    We also have the long drive. We have to drive close to an hour each way every day to get there (by the way, about 80% of the children attending this school have a long commute).

    I been kidding Dottie that she could start a school like this where she is. This school started with nine students in the school's founders home. One of the reasons I like to post the great things my dd's school offers is that I think perhaps someone can start something great like this somewhere else.

    The incredible resources are great, the great teachers a big bonus. However, what makes this school truly extraordinary is the fact that HG children learn side by side. This is something any school could easily implement.

    Anyway, i promised to be quiet for the rest of the school year, so I am zipping my lips.




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    #17065 - 05/30/08 06:32 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: bianc850a]
    Kriston Offline
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    I don't think anyone really expected you to keep that promise, Bianca. LOL!

    As far as I'm concerned, talk on! Just let me grab a bib so I don't get my shirt all wet with drool...

    grin
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    #17066 - 05/30/08 06:32 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: bianc850a]
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    Quote:
    One of the reasons I like to post the great things my dd's school offers is that I think perhaps someone can start something great like this somewhere else.


    Please, this is a somewhat crass oversimplification. I think you're great Bianca, I love your posts. Could you see how this could be insulting to some here, though?

    Quote:
    It is true that some of the families there are very wealthy, but not all. For a good portion of us it is a sacrifice of both time and money.


    Point taken. Please know that your child's exceptional school is still out of reach for some very deserving children. And we all make sacrifices for our children.

    Quote:
    However, what makes this school truly extraordinary is the fact that HG children learn side by side. This is something any school could easily implement


    Now this is somewhat magical thinking and I don't think it's a very well thought out statement. This is insulting as it implies that all of us that do not have access to your situation could easily create such a wonderful environment for our children, we just must not be capable enough.
    I'm personally offended as I've worked particularly hard to advocate for HG kids at school. It's not as easy as you might think.

    Peace,
    Neato

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    #17067 - 05/30/08 06:36 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    I think the big problem is finding the HG+ kids to work side-by-side with. They're not all that common, and if there's only one in a whole school on average, then working side-by-side isn't possible for most schools.
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    #17068 - 05/30/08 06:37 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    Thanks Kriston,

    I can actually keep my promise for at least today. My dd and I are playing hookie at school and attending the National Geographic Bioblitz, so we are off to count, observe and record sea birds and mammals for the rest of the day! whistle

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    #17070 - 05/30/08 06:38 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    I'm sorry. the word "easy" just seemed to jump off the screen and punch me in the nose.

    smile

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    #17071 - 05/30/08 06:43 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    What I read was "easy for the school" to implement - I'm thinking there are a lot of things that would help HG kids that would be easy for the school to implement, but getting the school on board is the difficult part.

    (have fun today Bianc - I wish there were one of those events near my state. maybe next year)

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    #17072 - 05/30/08 06:45 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: bianc850a]
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    One of the things that I find most frustrating about raising kids (GT and non GT)is that feeling that no matter what decision you make, there are always comprimises, and no matter what you do another parent is likely to judge you. For example, natural childbirth? breastfeeding? co-sleeping? day care? and on and on.

    This same pattern gets worse when you child has special needs of any kind. It gets to the point where most of us keep our mouths shut and don't share our highs and lows because we don't want to face the social consequences in our local communities.

    I like this board because it seems like about the safest place around to share. When I have something to brag about I know I can come here. I do think "bragging" is OK here. And, I don't see anything wrong with being happy for someone who has found a school in which their children thrive (even if it isn't a school that we can or want to send our own child to)!


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    #17073 - 05/30/08 06:50 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: acs]
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    acs, those are my sentiments also.

    Everyone remember -- a joy shared is a joy multiplied and enlarged, a sorrow shared is a sorrow made divided and made smaller.

    I've enjoyed reading about all the different educational ideas here.

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    #17074 - 05/30/08 06:51 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: st pauli girl]
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    I am sorry. I obviously have no experience dealing with school boards. I don't mean to belittle everything all you are doing for your children. I am just clueless as to your struggles. Mine come in the way of a difficult XH. I am getting pretty competent there smile

    As for my statements being "not well thought out" you are right. I tend to speak/write without giving it a lot of thought. Always been one of my biggest faults frown

    And I do think the children on this board are very lucky in that they have caring parents that are doing all they can to meet their extraordinary needs.

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    #17078 - 05/30/08 06:57 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: acs]
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    I don't have issue with her bragging about her great school, I think I made that pretty clear.

    And I'm not bagging on her either.

    But here is the quote again:

    Quote:
    However, what makes this school truly extraordinary is the fact that HG children learn side by side. This is something any school could easily implement


    The idea that any school could easily implement this may have some truth. The problem is dealing with all the administrative levels of policy. It is NOT easy to get established schools to do this. I wouldn't think it would be an EASY undertaking to create this school from scratch.

    So my issue is not with Bianca's great school or her happiness with it, as mentioned, I think it's great.
    My issue is with the assertion that it is easy to create this situation. Or that somehow if one was willing to drive a certain distance or sacrifice financially he/she too could provide this for their child.
    My opinion is that sadly, it just isn't so.

    It's unfortunate if both sides of this coin could not be supported here.

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    #17079 - 05/30/08 07:01 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Thank you for comments Bianca, it truly means a lot to me. I am truly sorry if I sounded harsh to you. Perhaps the fact that I have worked so hard for so little is just sour grapes on my part. I am so happy for you and your daughter, I've posted that before, your situation is something to celebrate!

    I'm not sure I feel our sorrows divide us. It's good to discuss what is NOT working for these kids. It's part of the problem solving process just as much as cheering and modeling what is working, IMHO.


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    #17080 - 05/30/08 07:02 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Originally Posted By: incogneato


    It's unfortunate if both sides of this coin could not be supported here.


    A whole page of discussion came in in the time I composed my last message.

    If I had seen this I would say, that this is also a great place to share our frustrations as well as our joys!

    To keep this board safe, I think we do a lot of self-policing, making sure that people keep their posts kind, even when we disagree. This is often done very gently. When people feel really frustrated, angry, or threatened, they tend to be less gentle. Obviously, this thread has hit a nerve! frown

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    #17081 - 05/30/08 07:06 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: acs]
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    Thanks, my post sounded logical to me, I didn't realize it came across as unkind.
    Again, sorry.

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    #17082 - 05/30/08 07:07 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Originally Posted By: incogneato
    ...
    I'm not sure I feel our sorrows divide us. It's good to discuss what is NOT working for these kids. It's part of the problem solving process just as much as cheering and modeling what is working, IMHO.
    ...


    incogneato, it's not that sorrows divide us; it's when a sorrow is shared that we feel it is made smaller because we don't carry the load all by ourselves.

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    #17083 - 05/30/08 07:10 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: OHGrandma]
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    I see(smoothing down unduly ruffled feathers).

    I read it too fast.

    Thank you.

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    #17084 - 05/30/08 07:15 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Originally Posted By: incogneato
    Thanks, my post sounded logical to me, I didn't realize it came across as unkind.
    Again, sorry.


    Oh, Neato, you can relax. I was actually commenting on a general trend within the thread. I can't imagine that you were the only one who felt a little "ruffled." As a counselor, I am trained to "comment on the process." LOL!

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    #17085 - 05/30/08 07:37 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: acs]
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    Originally Posted By: acs
    One of the things that I find most frustrating about raising kids (GT and non GT)is that feeling that no matter what decision you make, there are always comprimises, and no matter what you do another parent is likely to judge you. For example, natural childbirth? breastfeeding? co-sleeping? day care? and on and on.

    This same pattern gets worse when you child has special needs of any kind. It gets to the point where most of us keep our mouths shut and don't share our highs and lows because we don't want to face the social consequences in our local communities.

    I like this board because it seems like about the safest place around to share. When I have something to brag about I know I can come here. I do think "bragging" is OK here. And, I don't see anything wrong with being happy for someone who has found a school in which their children thrive (even if it isn't a school that we can or want to send our own child to)!


    I wanted to come back to this, because it got lost in the shuffle, I think.

    I agree wholeheartedly that parenting is hard enough without feeling like other people are judging your choices. I think it comes out of insecurity--if your way is good, then mine must not be--and that's a shame. Human, but a shame.

    Complaining is usually socially acceptable, even about advanced behaviors, at least in my "everyone is GT" area. (i.e. "Oh, little Johnny is already walking, and it's just SO exhausting for me.") That's usually how people announced what their kids were doing in our playgroup, actually. They griped about how early their kids were doing things and what a pain it was. It's sort of backwards bragging, so that you are able to talk about what your child is doing, but without seeming like you're bragging.

    Personally, I like hearing real bragging or real complaining better. Either one is more honest, and I like honest.

    I love to hear the good here, and I'm happy to help as much as I can with the bad. I think that's what this forum is all about. laugh
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    #17086 - 05/30/08 07:44 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    Well, too much RE on my part. I am off to channel my inner spock.

    Have a good day, all.

    smile

    Neato

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    #17088 - 05/30/08 08:26 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    Interjection: Bianca mentioned that Davidson aid is available. I know how difficult it can be and truly sympathize with incog's efforts, but I know many people have started charter schools here.

    I do not know what the process is, but could Davidson help you, incog, in starting a program? I say this, because maybe there is a track here that someone else has started and worked with Davidson in starting gifted programs?

    Ren

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    #17090 - 05/30/08 08:49 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Wren]
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    Not to speak for 'Neato, but since I know she's not here, I'll give a place-filler answer...

    'Neato's kids just missed the DYS cut-off when they were tested, and she hasn't retested them. If she wanted to start a charter school--and I don't think she does--I'm not sure DYS would be in a position to help her right now.

    'Neato has worked her tail off to get her DDs' school to give her kids what they need. It was a really, really challenging and frustrating year for her. That's why this thread was so hard on her, I think. Nothing was easy. Everything she got accomplished required lots of hard work. And it may still not be enough for her DDs. She's feeling pretty beaten up, I think. I really feel for her!

    Even so, with all the trouble she had this year and all the pushing she had to do, I'm pretty sure that trying to start a charter school is not in her future. It's just not where she's likely to direct her efforts. Getting an education for her own kids has been hard enough!

    Feel free to correct me if I'm misspeaking, 'Neato. I don't mean to speak out of turn. I just didn't want this to become the "How 'Neato can start a charter school" thread. I know you don't need that! You're doing enough as it is without that pressure!
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    #17096 - 05/30/08 09:11 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    I can feel Neato's pain. I think we are in a similar kind of school situation but about half way through the year I threw up my hands, gave up, and thought we're homeschooling next year (which is still a bit up in the air). I have the utmost respect for those who have the resources, drive, and energy to start a charter or make wide a sweeping changes in a school or a district. But as a parent, at least for me, my first consideration is getting a reasonable fit for your child ASAP in whatever form I can get it.

    Anyway - I was also going to throw in since I was late to this discussion, I definitely have no issues DOK either. I do like to hear what's working and what's good out there. That kind of info can only help me. I can relate to frustration as well though.

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    #17098 - 05/30/08 09:20 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: kimck]
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    It is an awfully big commitment to start a school!
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    #17108 - 05/30/08 09:58 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    Totally agree, it is a big commitment. I thought about it for 15 minutes. But there may be, like this woman I am in contact with in Queens, who may choose that route. Not that Neato should. It was a blind suggestion, should anyone consider it.

    And if Davidson provides resources and help. Since Bianca brought up their willingness to help finance tuition, just wondering.

    But since I do not live in a less populated area, this is not an issue for me. And I apologize for any implication this was a simple solution. I know it is not.

    And I totally understand the burn-out. Why I am flailing about with the AGATE and the panel. Trying to lay groundwork and connections now.

    Ren

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    #17116 - 05/30/08 10:24 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Wren]
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    Thanks for the suggestion Ren!

    Thanks for the explanation Kriston, spot on.

    Thanks for the understanding Kim and all.

    For the record, I would not attempt to start a charter school. I don't think I have what it takes to pull it off at the same time getting my girls what they need right now.

    I will HS if it comes down to it.

    smile

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    #17174 - 05/30/08 02:21 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: incogneato]
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    All of your points are well taken. I just want to clarify my last rant, and then I'll lay off Mirman. But I have serious issues with the place and I don't want anyone feeling bad about not having a place like it around. First of all, it is expensive and elitist (take a look at their auction fund raiser to get a sense for what the parents have to give). It is true that they give financial aid, but like almost all private schools in LA, the admissions policies will vary depending on whether you can pony up the dough or not. This two-tiered admissions system disgusts me. Secondly, I know a few kids that go there whose parents are uberrich and I can tell you they are not HG or PG or any G. Mirman is a feeder school for Harvard Westlake (another tony LA school) and the prestige is what counts here (well, for some people anyway). I also know of more than one case of PG kids not getting into Mirman. This astounds me. I'm talking about super bright DYS kids who I would think could get in anywhere. No school for the gifted should reject a child for any reason, particularly economic ones. Because LA's public school system is such a mess, it's a mad scramble for kids to get into these private schools. So yes, DOK away, but I'm more concerned about that DYS kid that Mirman rejected and is now bored to tears in a public school with no gifted funding whatsoever. OK, I'll stop being a pain now.

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    #17180 - 05/30/08 02:39 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: calizephyr]
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    Originally Posted By: calizephyr
    No school for the gifted should reject a child for any reason, particularly economic ones.


    Well, ideally, you'd be right. But the fact is, private schools are a business. They are. And unless the school has unlimited scholarship funds, then rejecting people--highly qualified people!--who can't pony up is going to happen. I don't think that's necessarily reason to dismiss all discussion of the school and its programs.

    I hear you on the admissions policy, and I'm certainly not going to defend classism (!), but I really think that's pretty much the nature of the private school business. I think we can still love the programs, even if we hate the business part that accompanies it.
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    #17191 - 05/30/08 03:03 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
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    Dear Calizephyr

    I think I understand your concerns about the school, and far be it for me to disagree. I do not pretend to know much about the school. Our DS5 will be starting there in September, We saw nothing like what you said. (Please excuse my gammer and spelling, the apple fell a long way from this tree.) I don't fully know all that goes into the admission of students into a private school. I do know they have very limitted slots avaiable, and more then 4 times the qualified (IQ Scores) applicants to choose from. I can assure you we were not chossen because of our income (I only wish that was the case.) I felt, and it is only an my opinon that they look for a good fit. Last year we applyed when our DS5 was 4. We where not accepted, this year it seems to be a better fit. My DW and I had a hard time making the choice to go with this school. It's a long drive 45min to 1 hour each way. It will be financially difficult, and it will create issues at home. My DW is taking a part time job near the scool at a public shool as an assistant teacher just to be nearby, and to keep it to one trip there and back. It may also help cover the gas. Our DS15 will need to adjust also. I digress. The schools seems to be a great fit for us. I do not think it fits all, and I am very sorry to hear that many very well qualified children cannot attend. I find it terrible that m ost public schools do not have programs that create a peer group for the HG+ crowd. We looked into many schools public, private, homeschool, it's a very difficult choice. I have spoken with our school superentent, board members, gate coordinators, even our state assemblyman. It's a big issue. Everyone wants the best for there children. BTW we are not DYS, don't know if our DS5 qualifies. I fully understand Biancas joy at finding a fit for her DD, I hope our experance is the same for our DS5. All each of us can do is our best. I hope I am not comming across challanging, I am new to the board, new to the school, and am looking forward to participating in discussions in the future. For us its been a brand new world. I cannot reply to any posts untill Monday, I am off camping with the boy scouts.


    Edited by Edwin (05/30/08 03:10 PM)

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    #17195 - 05/30/08 03:13 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Edwin]
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    Welcome aboard Edwin and I look forward to reading about the year ahead! I hope it's filled w/ wonderful surprises!

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    #17199 - 05/30/08 03:24 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Edwin]
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    Hello Edwin! smile It's nice to have you join us. Best wishes to your son this school year.

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    #17202 - 05/30/08 03:41 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Ann]
    incogneato Offline
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    So, not challenging!
    Thanks for sharing your story and your point of view.
    Camping with the Boy Scouts, what a great way to spend the weekend.

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    #17204 - 05/30/08 03:54 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Edwin]
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    Edwin,

    I don't think you or any other parent whose child attends a private school has anything to apologize for. If it's a good fit for your child and your family, I am glad that such schools exist.

    Cathy

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    #17205 - 05/30/08 04:04 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: bianc850a]
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    Edwin I sincerely wish you and your family the best for next year.

    But this, I mean, come on! Most gifted kids don't have this. Of course Mirman is like this. And saying " I don't mean to brag?" I do realize I am in the minority here thinking this kind of "not bragging" is repugnant.
    Originally Posted By: bianc850a


    Ok. So I will give you guys one (or a few) more reason(s) to DOK and then I promise to be quiet for the rest of the school year (10 more days!!)

    Room one has become even smaller (only 15 children per classroom) with two teachers.

    We are getting five new teachers. Our new coordinator of Educational Technology for the lower school comes with a Masters in Technology in Education from the Harvard Graduate School of Education. Although this is the teacher who I am most impressed by, all the others come with equally impressive credentials.

    The new center for communications will be completed next month. It will have 2 additional classrooms, a great library (with a special place for authors to come and read to the small children) and a conference room to be used for distance education (it will have state of the art computers)

    The science rooms (both lower and upper school) will be upgraded with more modern equipment/new furniture.

    The computer labs will have new computers.

    The new electronic white boards will be installed. Then next year the school will go to one-on-one laptop program.


    Sorry guys, I don't mean to brag, it is just that our headmaster just hosted a "headmaster's coffee" to update us on all the things going on next year.






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    #17206 - 05/30/08 04:15 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: calizephyr]
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    calizephyr, a school like Mirman is only a fantasy for my family. There is a private school for the gifted here in the Bay Area (Nueva School) which is a beautiful place in Hillsborough, CA. We couldn't even afford to rent a house close enough to Hillsborough that our kids could attend. We live on the other side of the bay. I went to Nueva School for a conference on gifted education. They had all the big names there including Dr. Ruf, Dr. Silverman and the Drs. Eide. The students there have a steel drum band. It's all very posh.

    It makes me sad that I can't offer these kinds of opportunities to my kids, but I really don't begrudge others their happiness. I wasn't upset by bianc850a's post. I just took it as her sharing her happiness and satisfaction with the school. Also, a good review by her may help someone else on this board who could have access to that school.

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    #17208 - 05/30/08 04:34 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Cathy A]
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    Question: Most schools like this, around here, have plenty of financial aid, since fundraising has been strong over the last several years. If your kids are testing HG, don't they offer tuition relief?

    These schools sound like St. Ann's in Brooklyn, which is 30K per year, but if they want your child, they will offer scholarship. Is that not an option?

    Ren

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    #17210 - 05/30/08 04:55 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Wren]
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    *sigh*

    Okay, calizephyr. We get it. You've been heard and your point is clear.

    But I think it's also pretty clear from the responses that the majority of us are not as insulted by the mere existence of the school as you are, nor are we likely to be. Schools like this exist, and the consensus seems to be that Bianca has a right to say nice things about the school, just as you have enjoyed the right to say how much you don't like it. You're now moving into personal attack territory, and I'm personally uncomfortable with that.

    Think we could move on now? Please?
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    #17213 - 05/30/08 05:36 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Wren]
    Cathy A Offline
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    Originally Posted By: Wren
    Question: Most schools like this, around here, have plenty of financial aid, since fundraising has been strong over the last several years. If your kids are testing HG, don't they offer tuition relief?

    These schools sound like St. Ann's in Brooklyn, which is 30K per year, but if they want your child, they will offer scholarship. Is that not an option?

    Ren


    Ren, it may be worth a try but I think it very unlikely that Nueva would offer our family sufficient financial aid. Why would they when they have a waiting list full of people who will pay full price?

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    #17214 - 05/30/08 05:55 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Cathy A]
    calizephyr Offline
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    Ok, Kriston. Fair enough.

    Cathy, your points are interesting.
    As far as wren's question, here in LA private school tuitions are going up to insane levels. Around or will be over 30 grand (also consider all the donations they want as well). The fin aid packages offered to some middle class folks I know were not that great, I mean even at half off, 15 grand is a lot. There's waiting lists and lines out the door for these schools. The failure that is LAUSD causes a sad scramble here.

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    #17215 - 05/30/08 06:01 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Cathy A]
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    Hi Cathy,

    I have heard great things about Nueva. I would apply and see what happens. The schools do have financial aid available and a lot of times the admissions office is not involved in awarding financial aid.

    Ultimately the decision to accept or not accept a child is not always based on whether their parents can pay full tuition or not. Also, I am not sure if your child is a DYS, but they do offer financial aid for gifted school tuition.

    One more clarification. Mirman is a non-for profit independent school. This means that all the money that comes in in the form of tuition, fundraising, gifts, etc, must be spent back on the students. They obviously have to be financially responsible and since they do not receive state or federal funding they have to have parents that can afford that tuition. A lot of those parents are also very generous and give in addition to the tuition they pay. I am grateful for these parents as my dd benefits from such gifts. Mirman has an IQ requirement, so any child that goes there is HG.

    I am sad that not all HG children can attend the school, but as I mentioned earlier, they only have 30 spots for room one. That is an unfortunate reality but it does not take away from all the good things they are doing for the kids they do accept.

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    #17216 - 05/30/08 06:15 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: calizephyr]
    Cathy A Offline
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    Originally Posted By: calizephyr
    ...even at half off, 15 grand is a lot.


    Right. Especially for people who haven't even been able to afford a house. And remember, that's 15 G/year. For 10 years. I just don't see it happening for us.

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    #17217 - 05/30/08 06:39 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Cathy A]
    Kriston Offline
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    Yes, I have to admit that when I hear about 30K tuitions for K and 1st grade, I think "Egad! Those people have more money than sense!"

    It must be a REALLY great school for that kind of cash! I mean, I can't even imagine having the kind of income that would make an annual tuition like that seem like a good deal! crazy

    Clearly I'm very firmly entrenched in the middle class... wink
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    #17218 - 05/30/08 06:45 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
    bianc850a Offline
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    It's actually more like 20K, but it is still a lot of money.

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    #17219 - 05/30/08 07:44 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: bianc850a]
    Kriston Offline
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    Well, I wasn't really talking about your particular case, Bianca. Someone else was throwing around the 30K figure.

    BTW, no offense intended with my wiseacre remark. I'm sure you have plenty of sense! smile
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    #17220 - 05/30/08 07:57 PM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Kriston]
    bianc850a Offline
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    No offense take Kriston. I have told my dd that she will have to earn lots of scholarship money for college as I will be broke by the time she gets there!


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    #17234 - 05/31/08 05:44 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: bianc850a]
    Lorel Offline
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    Loc: New England
    I think it's lovely that Mirman is working for so many gifted students. I have no qualms about Bianca sharing her positive reviews and I am interested in hearing about what they have to offer.

    I am also aware that there are people who are unhappy with the whole Mirman deal, some of them parents of former students. I am sorry to hear any story about a child not having their academic needs met, and it seems particularly ironic and sad to hear this sort of thing in reference to a school that is purportedly for the gifted. It is important to remember though, that there is no one "Magic" solution when it comes to education. Every child and maybe even more so, every gifted child, will need something different.

    I often say that homeschooling works great for my family, but is isn't going to be great for every family. Isn't it fantastic that we have choices? It would be better if there were more affordable methods of education, but at least we are not stuck with a single educational path for every American child. THAT would be a nightmare.

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    #17248 - 05/31/08 07:50 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Lorel]
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    One other experience. I went to a Jesuit catholic school last year, as part of my tours. I was not getting great feedback from this school consultant that many of the preschools have on retainer to adviser. She was pushing the St. Ann's is for gifted. Anyway, I went since we were Catholic and the tuition is so low if your child is baptised. Although there were 30 kids to a class, they had amazing new facilities and a great curriculum. They also accelerated. I think it was the only school I saw that actually accelerated kids. And the results after 8th grade were great, in terms of where the kids went to high school. I know Jesuit grade schools are not everywhere and this one is technically hidden as a regular diocese school, though the high school is private and advertised as Jesuit.

    So if there is a Jesuit group and church around, it may be an option to look at. Yes, they had religious curriculum but you are excused if you are not Catholic.

    Ren

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    #17292 - 06/02/08 09:52 AM Re: Dr Laura blogging on homeschooling [Re: Wren]
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    Thank you for the welcome, Camping was great. It was an easy park camp (Actual grass for the tents). I am looking forward to participating in the discussions.

    Edwin

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