They said (over the phone) that not all test we had done are accepted by the state of VA.(or I think that is what she ment) So they need to do more (different) testing for some areas.
Try not to worry too much about this - it's fairly typical for schools to do their own testing as part of the IEP eligibility process, no matter what type of private testing has been done. I was worried when my ds went through the IEP eligibility process that when the school tested him they would somehow magically sweep away both his disability and his giftedness with their testing, but they were still there
Granted, the school *did* try to average them out and hide them and pretend they didn't mean anything, but the key was to understand the private testing and the tests given by the school, and to request the full set of subscores etc from the school testing.
What test should we expect and agree with and are there any test that we should say no way too?? Any specific test we should ask for?
I like Knute's suggestion to call and ask ahead of the meeting - and then I'd post their list here to get some input re what they are proposing. If you have a local parent's advocate group that you can call for advice with no charge, I'd also call and ask them what is typically included in an IEP eligibility review for SLD/reading in your school district.
FWIW, it looks like your private evaluator gave a comprehensive set of tests - I don't really see anything missing, except possibly executive functioning tests such as NEPSY. You've definitely got the tests that are needed to screen for a reading disability and to help you understand the cause of the disability (dyslexia vs other challenges).
Also- when looking at his achievement vs ability gap: It is not as big when looking at his Full scale IQ-- but it is huge when looking at the GAI. (his working memory index was at 2%!!!! which of course is a huge outlier) Is it a reasonable request to have them use the GAI instead of the full scale for determination of learning disorders.
It's important to understand that the decision whether or not a student qualifies for IEP eligibility is a *team* decision - it doesn't rest on any one set of scores. The school district (and possibly your state) will have guidelines to go by in determining eligibility, but you can absolutely argue *anything*. Be reasonable, of course, when you advocate for your child, but if you are well prepared and understand the data you have and the academic impacts of the disability on your child, you will have a strong voice in the IEP eligibility review process.
One thing that might help in advocating is to look through the achievement tests and sort them out in a way that illustrates specifically how your ds' reading disability is evidenced in the tests - if he does considerably better on math than on reading comprehension etc - things like that. Sorry I can't think of anything specifically at the moment, my brain is too stuck in writing disability mode... but if I think of some way to collate it I'll come back.
Also keep in mind - according to IDEA, a discrepancy in achievement vs ability doesn't have to be used to prove an SLD. I would recommend reading about this at wrightslaw.org if you haven't already.
Re using GAI - yes, absolutely, you can use the GAI! It might help to take a copy of an article explaining when/why GAI is used just in case the school staff isn't familiar with it.