Texas Summer-

Yes, you are quite correct about many families feeling very comfortable having only one child in the program. It's all relative, I suppose. Even within families, there are differences. In my family, I think oldest DS wouldn't have minded not being in the program as he did not relish the social aspects of the gatherings. But it was very hard on my dd when she wasn't yet a YS and her older brothers were in the program. DS 11 and DD 7.5 are very close friends, and that made it difficult.