Hi all,
I just want to thank you for your help on this-- especially the people who sent me private messages-- very very helpful! I have been really busy and unable to answer but have really appreciated all the input.

This board is really amazingly supportive.

I have decided to stick with my decision to move him, which will either be better, worse, or-- as someone said-- more of the same.

Anyway thanks to all. It was easier to give up the spot at the gifted school-- which really was NOT working-- knowing that this network is here.... his giftedness is not going away, in fact I will now have to take more responsibility for it.