Well, Dot, my oldest is a bit older than your kids, but I didn't really get heavy into the research on g-ness until seven + years ago when looking for options for my 2nd child. The whole concept of levels was new to me, and I jumped in with both feet! It is so lonely to have a PG kid and not only not have the language for that sort of difference, but also to feel unable to discuss the trials and triumphs of every day life with people who will believe you and "get" it. The internet is such a blessing in this way.