Thank you for your response. It makes me feel less like a loner.

I plan to have him take all the standard tests, but I’m not sure about requesting additional testing. As he gets older and has more maturity, other adults in his life see his abilities more. Maybe that’ll help bring him more opportunities.

Yes intellectually needy is the best description of him. Asynchronous is also an OK description and felt correct especially in the earlier ages.

I like your ideas about law/rules. I’ve tried many approaches to talking about behavior and I think your ideas might work for him. My most successful way in so far is to read/talk about philosophy. It feels ridiculous to say I’m reading philosophy to my (then 1st grade) kid… but it was the most well received way to talk about self control and his impact in n others.

Thanks!