We had 3 difficult years advocating for our DS, but now in grade 1 we have a wonderful co-ordinator (person who takes care of all 'non-average' kids of a grade, with learning or behavioral disorders etc) who really tries to work with us and started this:
- reading: the method has books for new readers and for kids who know all their letters. He started in september with the 2nd semester workbooks for kids who know all their letters. Still way too easy, but independent work AND as soon as he finishes his pages for the day, he has appropriate reading material in his 'reading treasure'. He reads those books and afterwards has to represent them to the teacher by turning them into a comic, building a scene with lego...
- math: he gets challenging homework. In class he has to follow the lesson plan, but there's a group of kids who are stronger in math who get to work independently and he gets to help them with their questions. He's also pulled out of class together with one other child to get more challenging maths problems, one hour every week.
- other subjects: he follows the class projects but gets time to prepare something related to it on his own level. E.g.: they learned about day and night, he had to prepare a presentation about a night animal.
It's not perfect, but this is the first year our DS has been willing to go to school. Together with what we offer at home, it's good enough for us at the moment.