Originally Posted By: philly103
How do others manage this sense of wanting to push but also wanting to let the process evolve?
Like many of the parents here, over the years you may find that nothing is sufficient...
- as most gifted programs teach one year ahead. Period.
- as highly gifted and profoundly gifted kids often have strong internal motivation to learn... driven, compelled, unquenchable thirst for knowledge.

That said, it may be productive for parents to fill wait-time by documenting and updating their records at home. This might include dates of tests/assessments, if known. Parental documentation might also include when tests/assessments were *not* conducted (such as Fall 2019, mentioned in your post). While awaiting quantitative results from tests and assessments, parents may wish to make notes on qualitative observations. If a time comes when your child needs more academic challenge and/or the company of intellectual peers, you may observe pervasive changes, such as those listed in this brief roundup:

- not so happy
for example: change in personality and/or outlook, feeling invalidated, unsupported, unaffirmed, left out, marginalized, ostracized, internalizing a sense of "guilt" for being "privileged" with higher-than-average intelligence, anxious, afraid to make a mistake, bored, hopeless

- withdrawn from friends
for example: saying classmates don't "get" child's humor, aren't interested in the same things, child has to hide his/her intelligence and "dumb down" to fit in, etc

- changes in reading habits
for example: lack of interest in reading in depth about topics of interest, and/or choosing genres influenced by popular taste of kids his/her chronological age and/or assigned grade level

- avoiding challenge
for example: shunning new experiences, procrastinating when faced with learning about topics which s/he may not be too interested in or naturally good at

- etc, etc (more at these related posts)

These observations may signal that a change is needed and may be overdue. Having kept documentation at home may then provide accurate records to assist in the advocacy process... and may be more compelling than expressing a "feeling."