My first grader does harder/differentiated work in the classroom but gets the "regular" HW with everyone else (although she doesn't send home sight words for him). I don't mind, because it takes him 10 minutes tops.

I don't afterschool my kids. I used to do it a little, but they just spend so much time in school, and they need time for all the other stuff. Sometimes, I think I'm being dumb. But we do provide a ton of non-schooly enrichment...stacks of books, hours of board games, drawing instruction books, cool science and building toys. We have a strict screentime limit, so they find a lot of things to do. (Note: screentime rules are different if they're doing something creative.)