Personally, I've never concerned myself with other people's totems, taboos or fetishes. I am somewhat tigerish with my DD but I try to stress that when she has done what she has to her time is her own entirely.

I want her to get that vital unstructured playtime but I also want her to understand that work comes before fun. In my mind it boils down to three main themes a) DD is highly intelligent so because regular school is too easy I want her to learn how to learn so I feel that I have to after school her at a level that she can do relatively easily if she focuses b) her neuro-plasticity is high at this age (9) so why shouldn't she be in her ZPD? c) a child's mind is like a climbing plant - give it something to climb onto and it will grow up into the heavens but provide nothing and it will merely spread itself all over the ground.

Of course, I would like her to go to a top school but not for the bragging rights as a parent but for her have a chance to swim with other swans.

Last edited by madeinuk; 04/04/14 11:25 AM.
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