We have been used to such things for many years. In my mind, the school and the teachers don't really care because it has nothing to do with making THEM look good. My kids are very accomplished in a few areas and the school and most of the teachers have no idea. We have long stopped trying to tell them anything. The kids are well recognized by people who are involved in their activities (the local music circle, performing arts community, chess teams, etc) and that's enough. My kids are quite used to it. Recently a new music teacher at DS's school has been talking about "connecting music you do at school with music that you do outside of school" and has given DS some opportunities to perform at school. This is the anomaly, I tell ya.